Flowers are things of beauty that can bring light and joy, even in dark times.
I have asked my mother if there were any flowers around her old home place when she was growing up. She tells me that the yard around their house was bare, even of much grass. Copperheads were abundant and dangerous and a bare yard thwarted snakes hiding in the grass.
Still, nature provided flowers for my Grandma Rachel’s family: the delicate blossoms on the redbuds that dotted the hillsides, the lovely white of the dogwoods that could almost look like snow, the flowers of the blackberry brambles that graced the hills with the promise of beautiful berries in the summer, the blooms on the pear tree and the apple tree that promised delicious fruit later in the year. Even the blossoms on the plants in the garden, were things of beauty that promised full bellies come winter.
Grandma Rachel Allen Nolen and her sister Alta Allen Cantrell
Grandma Rachel did “plant” another kind of flower garden. She and her mother pieced the top for a flower garden quilt made from colorful scraps of cloth salvaged from flour and feed sacks. She finished piecing the top, but died at the age of 34 from tuberculosis before she could quilt it. Her sister, my Great-aunt Alta later finished the quilt and I am blessed to be able to own and cherish it.
Grandma Rachel's flower garden
Even decades after her death, God is providing flowers for Grandma Rachel. She is buried in a very rural, hillside cemetery in a different state and we can rarely visit her grave. A few years back when I was able to go with my parents to do some genealogical research in the area, we got to visit Grandma Rachel’s grave. There were little red wildflowers growing on the graves. My Mom said, “Isn’t it nice that God provides flowers for folks who have no family around to provide them?” So still, God is providing lovely flowers for Grandma and others.
Now, when I think of Grandma Smith, I think of moss roses and hollyhocks. Dad tells me that one year Grandma grew dahlias that were as big as dinner plates, but that must have been before my time. She had at least two planters made from old tires and painted white. She always had moss roses in these planters. In the side yard, there were hollyhock bushes that bloomed profusely with colorful flowers.
Now, my mom loves so many kinds of flowers but I recall a flower bed rimmed with stones that my mom had when I was a child. It was always filled with beautiful zinnias and marigolds. Between the stones and the colorful flowers were low-growing hens and chicks. So, zinnias and marigold make me think of Mom.
Mom's hummingbird vine
Petunias and four-o’clocks remind me of Great-Aunt Alta. She was more like a grandmother to me than an aunt, as she took in my mother and her baby brother when Grandma Rachel died. Aunt Alta had a wonderful front porch that stretched across the front of her house. There were two adirondack chairs and a porch swing on that porch. In nice weather, that porch was a glorious place to sit and relax.
Aunt Alta had two huge wooden planters that were always filled to bursting with red and white petunias, and four-o’clocks bloomed along the front of the porch also. I can recall gathering round seeds from those four-o’clocks to plant around my home come the next summer but I don’t think that they ever made it into the ground. It would be nice to be able to have some of Aunt Alta’s four-o’clocks to remember her by, but when I see them anywhere I can still be reminded of her. My mom does still have aloe plants that Aunt Alta had given her. Aunt Alta’s house was full of aloe plants.
Now, when I think of Irises, I think of my Aunt Fanny and Aunt Lola. Aunt Lola started growing irises. She ordered special bulbs and had a great variety of types. Aunt Fanny saw how beautiful they were and started growing them too. She has several planted around her house.
Aunt Lola's poppies
Aunt Lola's irises and peonies
My brother, David’s favorite flowers were daffodils. He passed away three years ago. I made a little quilted collage piece for his daughter Sydney. It shows him driving away on the tractor after feeding his cows. Daffodils are in the foreground of the piece. Just a couple weeks ago, we cut daffodils from Mom and dad’s yard and placed them on his grave.
I also love daffodils and I love dandelions too. I know that many folks don’t care for dandelions and consider them weeds, but I think that I might have that seasonal affective disorder as I get kind of blue in the winter. Daffodils and dandelions arrive fairly early and remind me that my favorite season Spring is on the way! They are light bright spots of cheery sunshine in the yard! I love wild violets also.
My daughter Alex loves sunflowers. One year her papaw planted a row of sunflowers in his garden for her. So when I see or think of sunflowers, I think of Alex.
Alex Hajjafar and Papaw Donald Smith
I have one grandchild, my Jooniebug. The flower that I associate with her and her mother Roxanna is the camellia. My daughter had miscarried before getting pregnant with Jooniebug and she had a worrisome pregnancy. We were afraid that she would miscarry again.
One day, Roxanna called me and told me that she had seen a little nest in the camellia bush outside her back door. It eventually was filled with four beautiful blue robin’s eggs. Whenever she became worried, I would tell her that I believed that little nest was a sign from God that Jooniebug would be fine. Whenever she was worried, I reminded her of that robin’s nest.
Well, Jooniebug did have to be in the NICU for several days after she was born, but she came home on Thanksgiving Day. On that late November day, so close to winter, the camellia bush that had held that nest of hope was full of lush pink blossoms.
So, here is a collection of the flowers I have known and the folks that they remind me of. These flowers spring from the earth and as they emerge, sweet memories of loved ones emerge with them. I would say that my truly favorite flowers are the flowers that those emerging blossoms bring to my mind. The real blossoms are my parents, my children, my granddaughter, my aunts and uncles, my nieces and nephews, my cousins of all sorts... They are the flowers who have grown from the flower gardens started so very long ago when our ancestors married and planted the next generation, the next generation, and the next generation... of flowers.
Lola Nolen Walton Gatliff sitting; Fanny Nolen Sorkey,
Grannyma April Smith Hajjafar and Harper Jooniebug McCommon
Yes, my truly favorite flowers are my family members themselves; and boy oh boy, my family makes one beautiful and varied garden! The beautiful blossoms that we plant will hopefully bring light and joy for generations to come!